Grudges

            There are so many folks who still hold them. I used to be one of them.  Believe me holding onto them really does rob your life of time and energy. I was one who if you did me wrong believe me even when you didn’t remember it I still did. For years this was the way I conducted myself.  I’ve also been known to be one that once you rub me wrong and I say the words “I’m Done” then to get back into my good graces it was almost impossible.  I have no problem admitting it now because that is what I use to be. Now, I’m not saying I’m perfect, but I’ve learned now that if someone does do dirt to me it’s ok to get angry and it’s ok to  vent, but just watch how you do it. The people who walk out of your life do it for a reason.  Some walk for good reasons and some for not so good reasons, but never dwell on it. The issue could be something you did or something that this person hasn’t resolved within them.  A few weeks ago a man told me this story – He asked a woman to move something of value and when she did it fell.  She blamed him for it and from that day forth he doesn’t deal with this person. Something that was so little has now etched a permanent scare in this man’s mind about this person. I really wanted to tell him that if he doesn’t release this issue he will be bitter about this person for the rest of his life.  Instead he goes on thinking that he doesn't need this person. Never burn your bridges because that person just might be the person you need later in life. I’ve had a couple of people do me dirty and they had to come back and need my assistance. I stopped and wanted to say something smart, but instead I helped them any way. It showed a sign of growth and something that was necessary in order to live a much happier life.  Learn to let go of old hurts, pass regrets and grudges which you don’t benefit from.