Buyer’s Remorse

When you start talking to someone of interest you have to look at it the same way you do when you’re buying a house.  Take the time to evaluate the property.  Know its worth, understand the payment, learn about the interest and find out about the equity. Realtors have a way of tricking you. Just before you go and look at a house they either bake cookies or pop popcorn.  This trick makes your senses think of what it would be like to live here.  It creates a cozy environment. The same thing happens to potential mates.  To many times we are impressed with the appearance. The outsides are alluring and you may not realize that the insides may not be a perfect fit for you.  When you walk in a house you began to wonder about how many bedrooms it holds and in which direction is the bathroom. We wonder about the size of the kitchen, laundry room and don’t forget the back yard.  Our minds began to give us an illusion of you living here. At times without proper research we are ready to sign on the dotted line, but before you buy the house there is a phase called the appraisal process.  This process tells you everything.  It lists what’s good and bad about the property.  Does this property have terminates or anything else that will affect the foundation of the building?  You’ll find out about the conditions of the a/c and heating unit and if they will need to be replaced any time soon.  Once you make a big purchase it’s natural to feel buyer’s remorse. You’ll wonder can I do this or do I really want to be stuck here for 30 years.  In saying this I would like to implore you to do research on anyone of interest.  There are several free search engines on the internet. Oh and I encourage you to search the court systems.  Majority of them host a wealth of information regarding someone criminal background.  You need to know if the person you’re interested in if they can be left alone with your kids or your little cousins.  I can’t express the appraisal phase of a relationship enough.  LISTEN to what the person says.  I’ve learned that most people will tell on themselves without you saying a word. You will be amazed how some people will begin to talk and stuff rolls of their tongue like butter.  It’s a great time to find out about the wife or husband they don’t live with, but are still connected too. The kids they have spread all over the globe and even better their past dating history. It’s always good to know how many people have they dated and slept with. This information is important to you because now you’re thinking about your health and the health of your family. One more thing about searching the court system, you will find out about that bench warrant that they are not telling you about or maybe the restraining order they have against them. Oh and my favorite the child support they aren’t paying. Remember these systems are available to you and some are free of charge, so do your research.  I’d rather you know what you’re up against rather than suffer from buyer’s remorse for the rest of your life.