Closure

            There are some people who go years without ever getting closure. Women tend to suffer with this issue far more than men. It’s mainly because we allow our emotions to lead us on some many things. Not having closure leaves you with a feeling of unfinished business.  Your mind and heart long for the chance of being able to close a chapter in your life. It is as if your waiting for another opportunity to set things right. My question to you is how long are you willing to wait for this?  Closure isn’t a guarantee it’s an option. When you’re in a relationship sometimes you need distance from the other person. During this time allow God to work on your heart and if closure is needed then God will allow it.  Closure isn’t something you can rush. You may want it now, but the other person may still be wounded from the offense.  I tend to live by the phrase if it’s meant to be it will be.  Growing up in the church it was quite different.  My mother always told me  not to go to bed angry. She always encouraged me to try to handle things in a timely manor. Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Now believe me I haven’t always lived by this rule, but in my older years I’ve learned that you need to handle things in a timely manor. As mom’s stated before tomorrow isn’t promised. Don’t allow your anger and frustration to take over your life. I use to live by the rule of out of sight out of mind, but what does that say about you when you do?  I remember from time to time I would wonder how the other person was doing.  Feeling stuck on my own pride not willing to bend. Thinking that it was proving that I was strong, but the real strength is letting down your guard and cleaning up the mess that was made.  Time is of the essence. No one is guaranteed to see tomorrow. If you feel a press on your heart to get a situation right then do so. Don’t wait! Now if you’re thinking well I don’t know how to find the person say a prayer to God because he knows your heart and when the opportunity arises to do so then take the time to say what needs to be said.  Ok  before you do this  I need you to do one thing – Don’t go off accusing someone of this and that just to hurt them. State the facts! You’re hurt and you want to tell them that or if you’re sorry say that. Don’t re-open wounds and think God is going to allow you to injure this person over and over again. God is a God of order not a God of chaos.