Not my kid

                It’s always funny when you see two adults dating and one partner has a child. The parent doesn’t mind you spending your money on the child, but when it comes to discipline then there becomes an issue.  I’ve always adapted this theory when it comes to dating those with kids – you have several options you can discipline your children yourself or understand this if I’m spending my money on your kid then they will have to treat me with some level of respect.  You see my home is that – my home and if I don’t come to your home and act un-orderly than your child will not be doing that in my house either.  Realize this if you want to date and you want someone in your life it’s important to know how they interact with your kids, but also understand that you can’t expect someone to do everything for your child and not receive some level of respect.  If you can’t grasp this in your head then realize this bit of information - It’s not my kid, so legally I’m not obligated to do anything except keep my hand to myself and smile.  If you want to spend a meaningful life with someone who has kids discuss the boundaries before you start imagining a white picket fence because what you may discover is even though the fence is white the house is standing on a shaky grounds.