Your Child Comes First

            This entry has been on my mind so it was time to put it down on paper.   Adults when you decided to lay down and do grown up things and a child came about from your decisions that is the day you should have considered that all of the decisions you make in life needed to be for the better of your child.  In the last few months I’ve seen some parents make some of the dumbest mistakes and judgment calls I’ve seen in a long time.  First, don’t allow your pride to make your child miss out on things that could better their life.   A parent should always want better for your child.   If your childhood didn’t have certain things then it’s up to you as a parent to see that they don’t struggle the way you did.  If not then you’re just continuing the same generational curse that was put on your life and your parents.   I’ve watched some women in my family struggle as single mothers.  My mom always instilled in me that she always wanted better for me and she kept that in my head as a child.  To this day everything that she prayed for and pushed me to have I have.   She didn’t want me to grow up a single mother struggling she wanted me to do something she never did and that was to seek a college degree. Not only did I receive one but by this time next year I’ll have two.  My mom wasn’t a woman to trailed different men in and out of her home.  She taught me the values of being a woman and she also taught me respect.  This is an element some young and old mothers are missing.  Your child comes first!  They come before the man who lays next to you that isn’t your husband or even the man who stops by on occasions.  Your child comes first.  Before you decide to buy those new shoes know that your child comes first. They come first even when you want to buy that new dress you saw in the window. Your child comes first.   Even if you have to swallow your pride and do something you don’t want too.  Your child comes first.  When you get to the point that because of your own feeling your child is going to suffer you have just lost out on the true meaning of being a parent.  Having a child doesn’t mean you’re a parent making the hard decision to be responsible and taking care of them means you are.