The Changing of the Guards

            I started writing this entry a few days ago and somewhere along the lines I stopped but hear goes.   A few weeks ago I was talking to a mentor and she began to express how she had a best friend for 20 years. She stated how she had been there for this individual for many years and at times she felt that what she gave or what she put into the relationship she never received it back. Well when she decided to get married her husband became her best friend. They do everything together and she’s excited that not only is he a lover but he’s also her best friend.  I think sometimes we have to embrace the changing of the guard.  Just because a person has been your friends for years doesn’t mean they will remain in your life forever.  As you grow up things change and so do people.   The things you wanted as a child change from the things you want as an adult.   I remember when I was in school they said that girls mature faster than boys and sometimes that happens with friends.  Some friends mature in a way that they don’t see things the same way they use too.   Here is a good example.  If you grew up in the projects and the people you knew were your friends that’s cool, but when you go off to college and learn a better way of life you don’t have the same desires to hang on street corners or having multiple partners in your life.  Your goals and ambition change. It doesn’t mean you’re better than that person it just means you want different.  People tend to try to make you feel bad for your decisions but sometimes you must embrace the change and accept that it’s time to change your guard.