In Laws – Part 1

                 Some people wait a lifetime in hopes of finding that one special person to marry and grow old with.  When you find that person your heart skips a beat every time they walk in the room. Feelings of conquering the world together seem to be doable.  The engagement process is short but sweet. Your wedding day comes and you finally get to say I do before your friends and family. You have decided this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.  The honeymoon ends and the love is still going strong, but then you discover that  the family you just married into is crazy or even unbearable.  Everyone is always trying to tell you how they do things in this family. You discover that some of them have criminal backgrounds which give you a sudden mental note to watch them every time they come to your home. You’re the new kid on the block and that makes you the new personal ATM.  You will know the beggars in the family because their hands will look like cups.  At first everyone wants to come to your house and that’s only because you don’t know all of the family secrets. Once you have become a little more seasoned and learn to speak up the constant visits to your home will become fewer and far between.   At times you feel as if your under a microscope because you don’t do everything the way your spouse mother or father does. You feel as if you’re in an episode of the Twilight Zone or even better an episode of Punked.  It’s not a dream it’s a reality, but it feels like a nightmare. You may have made the choice of picking your mate, but you can’t pick their family.  In the back of you’re mind you wish you could keep your spouse and your home in a big bubble that would guarantee all unnecessary drama would be kept away.   It’s as if you’re the lady in the Calgon commercial asking someone to take you away.  Dealing with in-laws can be difficult and if you’re not careful they will become a wedge between you and your spouse. I’m always mindful of the vows in which you take when standing at the altar and even better a passage in the bible that states you’re supposed to forsake mother and father and cleave to your mate. At times that can be better said than actually done.  Oh believe me I’m just touching the tip of an iceberg when dealing with In-laws.  I’ve seen it all. I even love the fact that they smile in your face, but yet talk trash behind your back.  They undermine and sneakily do things that will make you want to scream.  Take a moment right now and think about your in-laws.   Do you feel embarrassed around them?  When you see them in public do you wish they would keep walking and not acknowledge your existence?   If so then I guarantee you that either part of this or everything you just read applies to your in-laws.  They tell you to check your mates background when considering a future together, but to be honest you need to really ask for a family history before signing yourself into a lifelong commitment and contract.

                Stay tune for Part 2 of in-laws.  I’ll cover the good side. It will be interesting.