Invitations

        When a person decides to have a function, they think of who they would like to attend. The person who receives the invitation has the right to think if they want to be a part of the event. Someone always has something to say when people they feel should have attended don’t and something is always said when others attend that you didn’t expect. Here is my take on it. Let the person who receives the invitation make the decision for themselves without your need for judgement. Personally I don’t go to all events I’m invited too. There have been, functions my siblings, have held that I have clearly just omitted to go. Does it make it right or does it make it wrong that for me to decide. A person has to want to be a part of the event. People make decisions on attending functions based on how you make them feel. Will your event be a conflict of interest or even better would my safety be at risk? When you listen to how other people size up what they think should happen it gets interesting. They see their side of things and thought patterns, but they never see the side of the other person. Many times they don’t even care about what that person is really going through they only see their own agenda. Years ago I brought a house. One side of my family is connected closely the other side you can say is more like a roller coaster. I would invite everyone. Mainly because I like bringing people together. As the years went on certain people would never respond or show up. It was a little discouraging at first, but then I got to the point where it is what it is. I’m not going to beg you to be a part of my life or anyone else in my circle. If you decided to stay on the island, you are on then you can do so. My need for extending the olive branch or life boat has passed. We tend to focus on people and waste time on folks who really don’t have our best interest at heart. I get it now. I no longer wonder why.  In many ways I really don’t care. Not to say I’m heartless. I have decided that I would rather spend time with those who truly want the best for you and aren’t looking for something from me. The next time you send an invitation send it freely.  No regrets or tears and know if it is meant for the person to show they will. If they don’t attend then don’t look at them as if they were the one who is in the wrong. Look at it this way did they feel comfortable, are they feeling well, maybe they had a prior engagement, was their safety at risk and lastly were there conflict of interest. Sometimes declining an invitation can bring you more peace than accepting and being miserable.