Broken Trust

Beside the loss of a love one the pain of broken trust is one thing that sits high on a list of things that some have a hard time getting over. When you began a relationship with someone it does not matter if it is friendship, dating or marriage when trust is broken it leaves a tear in the relationship that does not seem to heal. It is like a scar you get when you were a kid ridding your bike and you fall. You scrape your leg and you bleed. Ointment and a bandage is provided and applied. When it heals, the scar remains. That is how broken trust is. The scar remains and it lingers. With each relationship gained in the back of your mind, you hold on to a mental alert of past broken trust. If you are not carefully, you bring that issue into each new relationship. The new person may not have had anything to do with the hurt of your past, but they suffer through the collateral damage. Renewing trust with someone is hard. Your heart wants to let go of the pain, but your mind makes it a constant reminder.  The heart does not like pain. It prefers love, joy and peace, but the moment your mind reminds you of the past emotionally your body reacts. In many cases, we bring on unnecessary stress. Sometimes we are gearing up for something to happen that never happens. In many cases, we sabotage a normal healthy relationship because the residue of an old situation still resides within us. Letting go is hard. The feeling of needing closure tends to keep us in a loop that does not allow the thought of freedom. Healing from broken trust is hard. You may never get the closure you want, but one thing you can get is freedom in forgiving yourself. Beating yourself up for the past is something you must let go in order to grow. Everyone makes mistakes. Some are great and some are not so great. In order to heal from the past learn to forgive yourself for the part you played in it. Even if the other person never forgives, you or you never get closure. Allow yourself to heal by forgiving yourself.