How Do You Reason?

                A few weeks ago a good friend of mine had expressed how they wish I could sit down and talk to an old friend.  I understood how she felt, but after she stated her concerns I was able to ask her these 3 questions.  How do you reason with someone who speaks so negative to everyone?  How do you reason with anyone who doesn’t communicate without some sort of violence or abuse and how do you reason with someone who will never admit their wrong doings? In my lifetime I’ve bitten my tongue and tried my best to take the high road.  I’ll be the first to admit I’m not perfect and if I’m wrong I will surely admit it, but I think things have arrived to a point where people don’t realize that their words and action hurt. People don’t realize that they have used you and called it being friends.   A person who has been abused for years doesn’t realize they have truly been abused until they have that Aha moment and realize the treatment they endured was wrong. It is at that moment you discover you have been taken advantage of and you have been violated beyond your control.  So many issues can be resolved by a simple I’m sorry, but you can never get that if a person doesn’t see they have hurt you. The treatment you received from them is what they really consider how you treat a friend.  I’m sorry I no longer want to be treated like that. I don’t want to feel lied too, abused or even used. Even if I have to walk the rest of my days without this friendship in my life it is far better than being abused.