The blessing in disrespect

The last week has been one crazy roller coaster after another. I truly believe everything happens for a reason. Going through it all I couldn’t see it but now I see the end results. It all started with a friend being disrespected by someone they don’t get along with or even like. A very unnecessary situation but what do you say when some folks don’t respect you or themselves. After that the week started looking better. By mid-week I was hit with some street gossip which actually ended up being truth.  The news was shocking and when I approached the person about the situation the person deflected and lied. That alone didn’t set well with me because I have always treated this person with the utmost respect. I ended up talking to a very close friend and relative. One person’s advice was not what I wanted to hear while the other person was right on point.  My sleep pattern has been crazy for over a week. Some days sleeping a matter of minutes and others no sleep at all. My mind tossing and turning over how the events played out. Then one morning I woke up and God gave me this “You did everything you were supposed to do for this person.  Now you can focus on the people that you need too.” Sometimes we believe once we get a person to a certain point in life, we have to keep holding their hands. Helping along the way through every obstacle in life. At some point each person needs to be held to their own decisions and they also have to grow up. Take the training wheels off and learn to do everything you are supposed to do.  The pain and hurt was real but now I don’t see things that way. I look at it now as I did my part and now, I can walk on in life and not worry.  At times we get hurt because people don’t give you the respect you deserve but now, I look at it this way thank you for showing me my worth in your eyes. It can be a hard pill to swallow at first but I tell you if you keep drinking more liquids it goes down easy and after a while you totally forget why you had to take the pill in the first place. God allows us to go through thing for a reason. In many ways it’s to remove the training wheels off of a situation and in other ways it’s to tell you to walk away and move on. I’m learning I tend to take care of others better than they actually take care of me. In the last few days I have decided to simply pick me. My life, my happiness and my peace of mind. After days of wrestling with this situation I’m ok. I don’t have to pick up the phone and rehash anything. It doesn’t even have to be a topic to discuss. I’m thankful for how things played out. It made me think more about me. My well-being and how I need to focus on what matter to me. People look at disrespect as an awful thing but due to this incident it became my past to just simply move on with my own life. I don’t have to fix this nor do I have to worry or spend a dime. I’m free I did everything I’m supposed too and the rest isn’t on me. Once you lay the foundations it’s up to that person to maintain the maintenance.