I do or I don't

A little over 3 years ago someone I know told me that the rumor in the streets was her man was going to propose. She was certain it was coming to past and now almost 4 years later no ring, not promise and no wedding date.  It is great to date but what is your relationship goal. Some date to not be lonely other date in hopes it turns into something while some have no desire to make you a future anything. You are simply Ms. or Mr. Right Now. Don’t sell yourself short. If your plan is to give your mate, everything without any form of commitment than you just sold yourself cheap. Your offering all the perks with no 401k in sight. Even a job provides you with previsions for the future and retirement. How many years have you been vested in a relationship only to complain about your present state of being? Are you still pick up after someone just to say at least I’m not alone or are you just dating to give up everything and still feeling lonely. I’m curious as to what do you really get out of it all. I say all this not to put a damper on your relationship but do you know what the ultimate goal is? Better yet does your mate and you have the same goal because if you don’t then you might want to abandon ship in hopes of finding a captain who is headed in the same direction as you? I always say time is a currency you can’t get back. How many years has it been since you looked at your retirement plan? You can spend years with a person giving them everything, and they can kick the bucket and your name isn’t even on the insurance policy. Years spent just to be listed in an obituary as the person’s longtime friend or companion. Did you even think about a benefit package? Shucks! Do they even consider your worthy enough to receive anything after your years of service? This topic just came to me right out of the blue as I sat at my desk. I’m not sure why I’m hitting it this way, but maybe someone needed to hear it. No matter what you decide always know your worth. It is no different than working the same job for 20 years and never getting another raise or promotion, but you stick it out because you like the people. News flash when those people go home they are not thinking about you. They have their own cares and concerns to worry about. Think about your future. If you don't think about yourself no one else will.